Husbands and Wives

marriageI have all too often heard and read husbands quote Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.” as a way to CONTROL their wives…COMPLETELY dismissing how the scripture later instructs husbands to act concerning their wives beginning in Ephesians 5:25, where it states “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”…AND…”husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself”…AND…”must love his wife as he loves himself”.

Not to mention that if you really get down to it…if you say you love your wife, then you MUST define that love. Does it meet the guidelines of what the scripture says love is? Can you say that you love your wife as it states in 1 Corinthians 13:3? “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

Remember this husbands….if we are to love our wives as Christ loved the church, and Christ is our example in everything…then our love MUST be as outlined in 1 Corinthians…OR…we are not honoring God.

“He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the Lord” Proverbs 18:22

A bit of levity despite the madness

In a constant effort to grow in the spirit of humility and sometinesitisbesttokeepyourmouthshutness, I must share a Red letter day for a social media FAIL! Enjoy!

 

Dateline November 2nd, 2012;

So an old friend and all around good guy updates his relationship status on Facebook to “engaged”! Good stuff!

As I scroll past it, happy for him, I see a shared post praising the hope of a Romney victory. So in true form, I must contribute to the comment string, as I have grown tired of all of the banter. As I submitted my comment, I could only watch with perplexity a refreshing of the newsfeed on my cell phone screen . In just moments confusion led to horror as I saw that my comment had been misplaced into the congratulatory string of my friends relationship update, instead of the string intended, the “Romney” comment. As hard as I tried, it seemed that it could not be deleted quick enough! Enjoy the context of a comment out of place!

My comment ;

“Only if it ushers in a resurgence of our founders intent, without that any stooge will do!”

Is Marriage the New Divorced?

I have been having a lot of fun conversations lately with a variety of people. It all started with a radio show. I commute a fair distance, so I hear a lot of radio and the truth is that I get a little tired of music so I listen to stations that have more talking.

A few weeks ago they began talking about the current divorce rate. It actually went up with these last round of research tests. One of the radio personalities was talking about her life as a little girl. She talked about how taboo it was if someone got divorced. She actually said something along the lines of, “That happened to those people…”

Then she said the money shot.

She said, “Now, if you’re not divorced at least once….”

She let it trail off, but I thought how interesting that was. It began to confirm something that I’ve had marinating in the back of my head for a long time.

Married is the new divorced. If you get married before twenty-five people expect you to get divorced. Of course, if you get married after twenty-five, people expect you to get divorced too. If you’ve been married for more than a few years and you tell people you’re happy being married, they look at you as though you’re crazy.

Some people are actually feeling pressure to get divorced. I can’t offer this with empirical data. Certainly, though the people I’ve talked to all seem to agree that there is pressure to not be happy in your marriage.
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About Joe Martino

Boyfriends and Girlfriends and This and Such

In boyfriends and girlfriends and this and such
Hormones are raging,
not thinking too much.
Getting carried away by the lust of the skin
With no thought for tomorrow
or what happens then
Where is commitment or saying I do?
In lust, not love, mistaking the two?
Remember God’s word, His perfect plan
A husband, a wife
One woman, one man.

~Jimmy Eldridge~

A Little Advice In Dealing With Spouses

I have several friends that are going through marital hell right now. And I know that there are always two sides to every story, so I try to be careful and not choose sides.

Over the last several weeks, I have been doing some reading in regards to relationships and have come to the conclusion that most men have no idea what it means to be a good husband. Face it ladies…We are clueless!

Men want to look at the scripture that says ‘wives, submit to your husbands…‘ and we leave it at that. Then we expect our wives to do our bidding, be under our thumb, and be completely happy with that. (Those men suffer from what I call the I.D.10.T. syndrome.)

Understand this men….right after that it tells the husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the Church! BOOM! OUCH!

How does Christ love the church? Answer: COMPLETELY! SACRIFICIALLY! PASSIONATELY! UN-SELFISHLY!

Here is a little Dr. Suess inspired poem I wrote on this subject.

    A little advice in dealing with spouses
    Men should be men and not little mouses
    Treat her with dignity, honor, respect
    Love her, cherish her, much more you will get
    It’s not at all about what’s in it for you
    It’s all about her what you should do
    Treat her as royalty and remember how
    She’s the daughter of a King,
    and not some farmer’s cow!

    ~Jimmy Eldridge~