The Trouble With Porn

The church, and Christians alike, do not like to talk about the problem of porn. Why? Probably because it is already uncomfortable enough to talk about sex, let alone the tough issue of pornography.

That’s not true here at Relevant Christian however, we will talk about anything relevant to being an informed Christian in today’s ever changing culture.

It is sad to say but pornography is a HUGE problem today, and NOT just in the secular realm, but in the Christian ranks as well.

I recently read an article about Contemporary Christian Music Artist Shaun Groves, who admitted to having had a problem in the past with Pornography. It is a very bold move on his part considering that Christians are known for eating their wounded.

This post has been a while in the making because I wanted to make sure that I accumulated as much information as possible. The statistics were shocking to me. Not just the “secular” stats, but the stats for Christians shocked me even more.

Let’s face it folks…this is a very real problem. One that the church does not want to face.
Thank God there are a few brave people out there who are now speaking out on the subject of porn like XXXChurch.com, and Shelly Lubben, and Teens Against Porn, just to name a few.

Here are just a few of the statistics on the “Trouble With Porn”.

38 percent of adults believe it is ‘morally acceptable’ to look at pictures of nudity or explicit sexual behavior

59 percent of adults believe it is ‘morally acceptable’ to have sexual thoughts or fantasies

38 percent of adults believe there is nothing wrong with pornography use

42 percent of surveyed adults indicated that their partner’s use of pornography made them feel insecure.

41 percent of surveyed adults admitted they felt less attractive due to their partner’s pornography use.

March 20, 2007: At a men’s summit in Oregon before 2,000 men, Shelley Lubben of Shelley Lubben ministries challenged those who were struggling with porn addiction to stand. 30% rose to their feet. She immediately challenged them a second time, with the result that some 70% were standing.

March, 2007: At a small Christian conference in Austria, 75% of the 25 men in attendance admitted to being involved with porn; 50% within the past 6 months.

August 7,2006: 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women are addicted to pornography. 60% of the women who answered the survey admitted to having significant struggles with lust; 40% admitted to being involved in sexual sin in the past year; and 20% of the church-going female participants struggle with looking at pornography on an ongoing basis.

In December of 2000, the National Coalition to Protect Children and Families surveyed 5 Christian Campuses to see how the next generation of believers was doing with sexual purity:
48% of males admitted to current porn use
68% of males said they intentionally viewed a sexually explicit site at the school

Roger Charman of Focus on the Family’s Pastoral Ministries reports that approximately 20 percent of the calls received on their Pastoral Care Line are for help with issues such as pornography and compulsive sexual behavior.

A 1996 Promise Keepers survey at one of their stadium events revealed that over 50% of the men in attendance were involved with pornography within one week of attending the event.

In 2000 Christianity Today survey, 33% of clergy admitted to having visited a sexually explicit Web site. Of those who had visited a porn site, 53% had visited such sites “a few times” in the past year, and 18% visit sexually explicit sites between a couple of times a month and more than once a week.

Out of 81 pastors surveyed (74 males 7 female), 98% had been exposed to porn; 43% intentionally accessed a sexually explicit website

In his book, “Men’s Secret Wars”, Patrick Means reveals a confidential survey of evangelical pastors and church lay leaders. Sixty-four percent of these Christian leaders confirm that they are struggling with sexual addiction or sexual compulsion including, but not limited to use of pornography, compulsive masturbation, or other secret sexual activity.

34 percent of female readers of Today’s Christian Woman’s online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn in a recent poll.

In March of 2002 Rick Warren’s (author of the Purpose Driven life) Pastors.com website conducted a survey on porn use of 1351 pastors: 54% of the pastors had viewed Internet pornography within the last year, and 30% of these had visited within the last 30 days.

47% percent of families said pornography is a problem in their home.
Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003.

In a survey of over 500 Christian men at a men’s retreat, over 90% admitted that they were feeling disconnected from God because lust, porn, or fantasy had gained a foothold in their lives.

70% of teens have viewed pornography.

According to comScore Media Metrix, 71.9 million people visited adult sites in August 2005, reaching 42.7 percent of the Internet audience. At $12 billion a year, the revenues of the porn industry in the U.S. are bigger than the NFL, NBA and Major League Baseball combined. Worldwide porn sales are reported to be $57 billion.

Porn is everywhere you look. It affects everyone. No matter where you go, it’s in your path. It reaches through TV networks, pay-per-view movies on cable and satellite, Internet Web sites, in-room hotel movies, phone sex, peep shows, and magazines.

Pornography is a real problem. It’s time that we all knew the truth and acted on it.

If you or someone you know is struggling with this addiction and would like prayer, just click here. It is totally anonymous.

Sources
Morality Continues to Decay. Barna Research Group, 3 November, 2003.
Marriage Related Research, Mark A. Yarhouse, Psy.D. Christian Counseling Today, 2004 Vol. 12 No. 1.
http://www.shelleylubben.com
http://www.xxxchurch.com
From the results of a ChristiaNet poll reported by Marketwire.com
Pastors.com
Focus on the Family
blazinggrace.org/pornstatistics.htm
National Coalition survey of pastors. Seattle. April 2000.

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11 thoughts on “The Trouble With Porn

  1. Very troubling satistics. Joe and I have discussed these satistics before but it is still disturbing to see them again. Our pastor yesterday mentioned how he had just had someone delievered from the porn addiction.
    We have another friend that believes if you ask for healing and dealiverance of any sin issue you can be delievered. I wonder if men and women a like don’t want to give it up or if they are afraid to go to God and ask for delieverance afraid maybe that it won’t happen.I don’t know. I am sure some of it is that sin of any nature is fun! You have to want to change in order to give up an addiction.

  2. Erica,

    I talked with someone who had this problem and they told me that they were ashamed to go to God with it. He said…”I know it sounds crazy but I couldn’t talk to God about it because I was ashamed of it…I know that he sees everything I do and knows everything I think…but in my mind it was hidden because I hadn’t talked about it. if I talked about it then it was out in the open.”

    I remember when i first gave my heart to Christ a loooooooooooooooooonnnnnnnggggggggg time ago…I wanted to give up smoking and couldn’t. Once I truly talked to God about it and asked Him to help…he did. It wasn’t an instant transformation…but it was rather quick. Probably within just a few weeks.

    I think you may be right on the point that a lot of people don’t really want to give it up. Sure maybe in their minds they do…but their flesh is ruling them in this area and drowning out what the heart truly wants.

    It’s a thought!

  3. I would agree with you. Our friend who says you should pray for delieverence, said that God can deliever you but it is not to say that you will never be tempted again. (It is funny you mention smoking because that is the personal story he gave when sharing this idea with us.) You might have to pray again! I am sure some people who quite smoking might feel the urge to pick up a cigarette again when life gets really tough but if God delievered you once He can do it again.
    Sometimes we know something is wrong to do but we simply do it any way because we do not care. Unfortunelty Christians live by the same motto as peagans that it is easier to do something and than ask for forgivness or we even hide it than deprive myself of the enjoyment by not doing it all.
    It is just sad. I saw your satistics about pastors too. I think it is often harder for them because they have no one. They often have to act like they have it all together. I wonder what it would be like in churches if the pastors could get up in front of the church and say pray for me today I am struggling with a porn issue. What if all the people in the church layed hands on him and prayed for him. The pastor was not judged but the people were able to hold him accountable and pray for him. To me it would seem to be better than a pastor getting up at the pulpit week after week pretending that he has it all together when he doesn’t. I think as christians we either lack the desire or we are afraid to be real and transparent.

  4. Wouldn’t that be freakin awesome if we could do that?
    Wouldn’t it make life so much easier to live?
    Wouldn’t it make life so much more enjoyable?
    Wouldn’t it take relationships from beyond “surface” relations to deeper relations with people and God?

    That would be freakin awesome! (Did I say that already?)

  5. Yes, yes, yes and yes! Life would be more satisfying if we could be real! Unfortuntely, We would have to go back in time and change everyone’s mind set on how the elders/pastors are viewed!

  6. I usually agree with Mark Twain when someone throws out statistics to make a point (“lies, d*mned lies, and statistics”). However, your post is like a tsunami of statistical testimony that cannot be ignored. My wife and I have a national family ministry that majors largely on biblical ideals, encouragement, and practical helps for Christian parents. While that is the message God has given to us, and it is needed and important, your post is like a bracing splash of salt water that burns my spiritual eyes, but makes me take another look at reality. We have mentioned porn only a few times, and yet I know it is a reality in many of the homes and families we are called to minister into. I have no idea yet how we can address it head-on, but I’ll be praying about it now. Thank you. (PS: For those who are willing to be accountable to someone else, you might also mention Covenanteyes.com. We also use bsafe.com for our children.)

  7. Clay,

    I am not a big stats guy either, (except for basball) but when I saw the stats on christians and pastors, it was really scary.

    Thanks for the heads up on the two accountability places.

    Peace!

  8. Jimmy, thank you for tackling this issue and offering help here through your blog. Praying it sets some people free from what enslaved me for so long.

    -Shaun

  9. Shaun,

    All I can say is wow…thanks for stopping by.

    But more than that…thank you for opening yourself up and sharing from your heart in that article.

    I have always liked your music, but found a newfound respect for you as a christian and as a man because of your willingness to take a stand.

    Please stop by anytime.

    Keep making great music!

    Peace!

  10. Thanks for mentioning Teens Against Porn. We really hope that you openness and honesty about this issue will help others come out of the dark.

    I compare this issue with a mold or a fungus – it grows in the dark. Only through the light of deep confession and courageous accountability can it be handled.

    It is critical for Christians who struggle with porn and sex addiction to personally experience scripture such as Proverbs 28:13 and James 5:16. These scriptures need to be made real in their daily experience, not just a head knowledge of them.

    Christians who wish to help those dealing with porn and sex addiction must learn to practice scriptures such as Galations 6:1-3 and Romans 12:15. Legalism and a huge list of do’s and don’ts won’t help. Trust me, I know from my own experience on both sides of the coin…as a struggler and a minister.

    Thanks again for your courage to breach this topic!

    In Him,
    John
    http://www.purecommunity.org

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