I ran across a quote today that reaffirmed for me something I’ve been thinking for a long time. I’m afraid that as a church we are sitting on one of two extremes. The one is obviously wrong, the other I am afraid has a false
pretension to holiness and it could not be further from the truth. The idea that all sex is OK, sleep with whomever and do whatever outside the context of marriage is obviously wrong. But there is another idea that is just as dangerous. The idea that sex itself is wrong. In fact I came across a quote today that said, “Let’s be clear on something! Only Carnal Godless men constantly think about Sex. Godly men do not constantly think about sex.” (Emphasis mine)
That statement sounds spiritual, but really it is as dangerous as the “do
anything you want to do” statement. It is true that Carnal, Godless men think about sex but so do Godly, Spiritual men. For crying out loud, God invented sex. In fact, I think for the Christian we should be adamant about protecting our sex lives and enjoying them.
The sex in your married bedroom should be the best sex in town. Period! Why? Because God created it to be that way. Sex is not bad. Sex is good. God designed it. I don’t think God puts limits on what you can do with your spouse either—as long as no one else is involved.
Get crazy with it. Enjoy each other. God gave it to you. He created it to be a physical representation of His relationship with the church. I want to ask all of you fine people who think sex is bad a question, “Did God invent the orgasm? I’m serious here. Did God create the orgasm to feel the way it feels? I think any honest Christian would have to say, “Yes.” So here’s the follow up question, “Why?” Why would God—who knows all there is to know about us, create sex the way He did?
Maybe, it is because he wanted us to know what heaven will be like? Perhaps that feeling of satisfaction, of being satiated, is a small glimpse of the sensation that we will feel in Heaven. I realize I can’t back that up from Scripture so if you think I’m wrong I want to know what you think.
Here’s what I think. God created sex and it is an awesome thing. It should be talked about in church. We should model loving relationships where we teach our kids that married couples do have sex!
If you think I’m wrong I want you to show me one place where God calls sex bad. You can’t do it. Now, of course I think that sex should only be between one man and one woman and we as fallen human being mess that up.
However, we’ve gone too far. We’ve allowed the perverts to take what is ours, given to us by God. We stop talking about sex in good terms because there are perverts out there twisting it. Worse, we make stupid statements like the one above. I don’t understand.
What’s worse is there are terrible ramifications when statements like this one are made. What happens is people who are normal start to think there is something wrong with them. A man, who loves God but finds his wife sexy starts to think that maybe he’s “carnal.” A woman who feels moving in her loins when she sees her husband will try to repress that feeling afraid that she may be carnal, or not spiritual.
I say, one of the way that we show our spirituality by embracing the sexual beings that God created us to be.
Here’s some Scripture to back up what I’m saying.
18. May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be captivated by her love.
20 Why be captivated, my son, by an adulteress?
Why embrace the bosom of another man’s wife?
If I read those verses correctly we’re told that one way to keep from having an affair is to be sexual with our spouse. If I read it wrong, explain it to me.
Paul tells us in I Corinthians 7
3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
I am tired of Christians acting like sex is something that God didn’t invent. He did. He did it for a reason. God could have chosen for us to procreate in any number of ways. He chose this way.
Furthermore, God put the desire for sex into us. It’s a strong desire that can be misused and perverted. That doesn’t make it bad, just misused.
Lastly, if you think I’m wrong go read Song of Songs. There are some pretty strong sexual images in there.
The church should be a place where healthy sexual relationships are exemplified. We should be passionate about pursuing our spouse. We should be doing everything we can to kindle the romance of our marriages. One of the things that God finds most grievous is when two people claiming to be Christians live in a dead, cold relationship and somehow give Him credit for it.
Let’s be clear, sexual perversion is wrong. That is any sex outside of marriage is against how God created it to be. But sex is good. Sex is created by God and it can teach us something about Him. We should be doing everything we can to have a passionate sex life with our spouse. That brings honor to God.